AREAS OF FOCUS

Many of the struggles that bring people to therapy do not fit neatly into a single category. Anxiety, relationship difficulties, emotional disconnection, and feelings of being stuck are often connected to deeper origins and patterns that have developed over time. My approach integrates psychodynamic therapy, attachment-based therapy, relational therapy, and trauma-informed care to help you understand these patterns with greater clarity and compassion. The areas below reflect some of the concerns and experiences that often bring people to therapy, as well as the therapeutic approaches that help guide our work together.
Luz Cotto-Charneski engaged in an individual therapy session at New Light Psychotherapy

ATTACHMENT TRAUMA THERAPY

Attachment trauma often develops through early experiences of inconsistency, emotional unavailability, abandonment, criticism, or disruptions in important relationships. These experiences can shape how we see ourselves, how we experience closeness, and what we come to expect from others. People affected by attachment trauma may struggle with trust, emotional intimacy, anxiety in relationships, fear of rejection, or a persistent sense of not feeling secure or understood. Attachment trauma therapy helps bring awareness to these patterns and explores how they continue to influence present-day relationships. Through a safe and collaborative therapeutic relationship, new experiences of connection and understanding can begin to emerge.

TRAUMA THERAPY

Trauma can affect emotional well-being long after a difficult experience has passed. While some trauma results from a single event, many people carry the effects of chronic stress, relational wounds, emotional neglect, or repeated experiences that were never fully processed. Trauma often shows up in ways that are not immediately obvious. Anxiety, emotional overwhelm, relationship difficulties, self-criticism, and feelings of disconnection can all reflect unresolved traumatic experiences. Trauma therapy provides a space to understand these experiences, develop greater emotional regulation, and gently process what has been difficult to carry alone.

Luz Cotto-Charneski providing relationship therapy for a couple at New Light Psychotherapy
Luz Cotto-Charneski leading a supportive group therapy session at New Light Psychotherapy

RELATIONAL THERAPY

Human beings develop within relationships, and many of our emotional struggles emerge within relationships as well. Relational therapy focuses on understanding how patterns of connection, protection, communication, and vulnerability shape our lives. Many people notice recurring themes in friendships, romantic relationships, family dynamics, or professional interactions. These patterns often developed for understandable reasons, yet may no longer serve us in the present. Steady and reflective relational therapy helps illuminate these dynamics and creates opportunities for more authentic, secure, and satisfying connections with others.

PSYCHODYNAMIC THERAPY

Psychodynamic therapy focuses on understanding the deeper emotional patterns that influence your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and relationships. Often, experiences from earlier stages of life continue to shape present-day challenges outside of our conscious awareness. Rather than focusing only on symptoms, psychodynamic therapy explores the underlying emotional themes that contribute to distress. This process can help you notice and understand recurring patterns, gain deeper insight into yourself, and help you relate to yourself and others with greater clarity. Over time, this improved awareness often creates a sense of freedom, allowing new choices and possibilities to emerge in your life.

Luz Cotto-Charneski providing relationship therapy for a couple at New Light Psychotherapy
Luz Cotto-Charneski leading a supportive group therapy session at New Light Psychotherapy

ANXIETY THERAPY

Anxiety can affect every aspect of life, from relationships and work to sleep, concentration, and overall well-being. It may appear as persistent worry, overthinking, self-doubt, difficulty relaxing, physical tension, or a constant sense that something is wrong. While anxiety can feel overwhelming, it is often meaningful. Rather than viewing anxiety as something to eliminate, therapy allows us to slow down and look carefully at the emotional experiences, relational patterns, and internal conflicts that may be contributing to it. As you begin to understand anxiety differently, it often becomes easier to respond to it with greater compassion, clarity, and confidence.

THERAPY FOR EMOTIONAL NEGLECT

Unlike a traumatic event, where we explore something that happened, emotional neglect can be difficult to recognize because its impact often stems from what was missing rather than what happened. Many people describe a persistent sense of emotional loneliness, even within otherwise successful relationships, without fully understanding where those feelings come from. When emotional needs are repeatedly overlooked, dismissed, or unsupported, people may grow up feeling disconnected from their feelings, uncertain of their worth, or unsure how to ask for what they need. The effects of emotional neglect can continue into adulthood, influencing self-esteem, relationships, boundaries, and emotional well-being. Here, therapy provides a space to understand these experiences, reconnect with and affirm your emotional needs, and develop a more compassionate and grounded relationship with yourself.

Luz Cotto-Charneski providing relationship therapy for a couple at New Light Psychotherapy

A Thoughtful Approach to Healing and Growth

Although these areas are described separately, they are often deeply connected. Anxiety may be rooted in attachment experiences. Relationship difficulties may reflect unresolved trauma. Emotional neglect may shape the way we understand ourselves and others. Therapy offers a thoughtful space to explore these experiences with curiosity, insight, and care. 

New Light Psychotherapy provides in-person therapy in Darien, Connecticut and virtual therapy for adults throughout Connecticut and New York, including Fairfield County and Westchester County.

Frequently asked questions

What is attachment trauma?

Attachment trauma refers to deep emotional wounds that develop within important early relationships, often with parents or other family members. These experiences may involve emotional neglect, inconsistency, abandonment, criticism, loss, or other disruptions in connection and care. Attachment trauma can affect self-esteem, emotional regulation, trust, intimacy, and relationships in adulthood. Therapy for attachment trauma can help you gain a better understanding of these experiences and develop more secure ways of relating to yourself and others.

Can emotional neglect affect adult relationships?

Yes. Emotional neglect can have a lasting impact on adult relationships, often in ways that are difficult to recognize. Individuals who experienced emotional neglect may struggle with trust, vulnerability, self-worth, emotional expression, or feeling connected to others. Therapy for emotional neglect can help identify these patterns, understand their true origins, and create opportunities for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Why do I keep repeating the same patterns in relationships?

Many people find themselves experiencing similar struggles across different relationships, even when the circumstances seem different. These patterns often develop over time as ways of protecting ourselves, seeking connection, or adapting to earlier experiences. Therapy can help uncover the origins of these recurring dynamics and create opportunities for more intentional, fulfilling, and authentic ways of relating.

What is psychodynamic therapy?

Psychodynamic therapy is a form of talk therapy that explores how past experiences, unconscious patterns, and important relationships influence present-day thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. By developing greater awareness of these patterns, you can better understand yourself and make meaningful changes in your life and relationships. Psychodynamic therapy is particularly effective for concerns involving attachment, anxiety, self-esteem, emotional neglect, and recurring relationship difficulties.

Can anxiety be related to childhood experiences?

Yes. Anxiety can sometimes be connected to early life experiences, particularly those involving attachment, emotional neglect, criticism, unpredictability, or other relational challenges. While anxiety may be triggered by current circumstances, deeper emotional patterns often influence how stress and uncertainty are experienced. Therapy for anxiety can help uncover these connections and support the development of new ways of understanding and responding to anxiety.

Begin Where You Are

Whether you're struggling with anxiety, relationship challenges, attachment wounds, emotional disconnection, or simply a feeling that something isn't working, therapy can help you move toward greater understanding, connection, and emotional well-being. 

Whether you seek support for yourself or for your relationship, a brief consultation allows us to connect, talk about how therapy unfolds, and explore whether working together feels like the right fit. It’s simply a space to begin the conversation. 

Please note: This is a private pay practice.

New Light Psychotherapy welcomes individuals, couples, and groups for therapy